There is a great old song that goes, "...we all need someone to lean on..." We do.
I remember serving a rural church in a farming community. It was spring. One farmer invited me to join him for coffee at the local restaurant. When we showed up there were already a number of men sitting around a few tables enjoying the morning gossip. As I observed the men and listened in on their conversation I quickly realized that they were actually gaining advice from each other. It was really informal, but their conversation moved around and through many different topics where each person chimed in with their few words. They may not have realized that they were gaining information that would help them as they made their own decisions on what to plant this year, or where to get the best price on fertilizer, but that was exactly what was happening. Even the "self-made man" gets advice from someone.
We need others to speak into our life. Sometimes it is information that just informs us about the world around us, but sometimes it is information that helps us be who we want to be. Many churches have small groups where people can get to know a few people and hopefully get to the point where they truly can be open with each other and help hold each other accountable. Some people have great friends whom they can share everything with. Some are close to their family and can regularly pour out their heart to a mom or dad.
But unfortunately, there is a "loneliness epidemic" in our world.
A CBC online article stated: In Canada, studies have found that one in five Canadians identify as being lonely.
I wonder how many of those are pastors, or church leaders? It is lonely at the top they say. As a pastor, it is hard to find a friend you can be truly open with, especially in your own church.
We need people to walk through life with us. We need someone to bounce ideas off of. We benefit from having someone to hold us accountable.
I am available to provide coaching. This may be a short term venture, or a long term relationship. My goal is to help you become and do what you believe God is asking of you. That means helping you to find your way through difficulties or guiding you toward goals you have set. It means being available to encourage and empower you to be your best, even as others may be discouraging you.
We all need someone to lean on. We have Jesus, and we definitely need to lean on Him. But we also need someone to walk alongside us. Hopefully you have a friend or two to do that with. But even then, sometimes having a coach may make your life that much more fruitful.
Contact me if you would like to pursue a coaching relationship.
Keep looking up.
God has made you uniquely you. Do you realize that?
We so often compare ourselves to others and evaluate ourselves as better or worse. But God wants us to compare ourselves to whom He wants us to be. I really don't like the phrase many adults pass on to young people: "You can be whatever you want to be." This is just not true. A 4 foot 6 inch basketball player will never make it to the NBA. If you can't sing, you will not be singing the anthem at the Oilers and Flames Battle of Alberta.
God says, " You can be exactly who I want you to be."
God has given us gifts and abilities and skills. Some are natural or hereditary. Some are ones we learn. Some are specifically God-given. I remember a young man whose Spiritual Gifts Inventory suggested he had the gift of Mercy. His friend laughed, because it seemed so impossible. It wasn't until this friend observed this young man as he was visiting a dying friend in the hospital. His gift of mercy came across so clearly that there was no doubt this was a gift from God.
Our role is to learn to be who God wants us to be. Much of who God wants us to be is found in scripture. God has much to say about what He expects from his children. But more than that, God has certain things he asks of us specifically. In the Old Testament, Mordecai suggests to Esther that she came to her position "for such a time as this". Sometimes God has a specific role for us in a specific place and time.
Sometimes God calls us to a certain role. Moses didn't have much choice when God chose him to be the leader of his people in leaving Egypt and heading to the promised land. Jeremiah is told that God had a plan for him before he was even born.
Some of us find the sweet spot of becoming exactly and doing exactly of what God wants of us. And life is good, even when opposition comes, because you know you are doing what God wants. Some of us struggle to find what that is. Where do I fit? What direction should I go?
In the last while I have realized that God has been redirecting me. I knew He called me to be a pastor, and I enjoyed that role for 25 years. Now, over the last couple of years, God has been redirecting me. Through the wise counsel of friends and family, and through prayerfully listening to God, I am beginning to find what that is.
How about you? Sometimes we need someone else to help us. Allow me to help you. Please reach out and I will do my best to assist you in your search for clarity.
God loves you and has called you to be you. I pray you can find exactly what He desires you to be and do.
Author: Andy Wiebe
In 25 years of pastoral ministry I have loved preaching and teaching. I enjoy encouraging and helping believers and pastors become the best they can be. And I love the church, desiring it to be the best it can be.